Where do you Default?


I hate that word. It rises up and slaps me in the face.


It reminds me that I am not in control.

I long to face life with grace, grit and determination. Unhindered. Free. But all too often, whether the world sees it or not, the stress of life lands me on my butt.

That’s OK. Stress is not actually the enemy. Cortisol is.

Cortisol is a hormone produced in our adrenal glands. Under normal circumstances our body regulates a daily cycle of cortisol. It pumps out the highest levels in the morning to prepare us for the day ahead. It hits a low as we get ready to sleep, preparing our bodies for the sweet land of slumber.

Cortisol is also known as the “stress hormone.” Our body releases an extra dose of cortisol when a tension filled situation arises (a fight or flight event). A short-term release of extra cortisol makes a positive impact on the body. It improves memory, reduces our sensitivity to pain and increases energy and stamina. In quick, short doses cortisol is a knight in shining armor.

Prolonged over-exposure to cortisol – whether it’s a constant trickle or a relentless fire hose – is a dragon breathing down our back. The effects are corrosive and daunting.

  • Cortisol damages our brain and does a number on our memory. It sets us up for Alzheimer’s.
  • It suppresses our immune system, making us vulnerable to both inconvenient and life-altering illnesses.
  • It causes us to gain weight. It increases ghrelin, the hormone that creates the feeling of hunger. It decreases leptin, the hormone that allows us to feel full after eating. Not a good combination.
  • It sets us up for diabetes, depression, high blood pressure and osteoporosis.
  • It sabotages our sleep.
  • It damages the cells in our body and shortens our life span.

Where do you feel cortisol’s greatest effect? Extra pounds? Chronic fatigue? Lackluster joy? Restless nights? Too few working brain cells?

We all have a default setting when it comes to stress and the impact of cortisol over-production.

  • Caffeine – we gulp it down in many ways
  • Carbs – we crave the temporary “brain boost” we get from our favorite snacks
  • Pills – we take all kinds for pain, sleep, blood pressure, depression, anxiety
  • Ruts – we cave into unhealthy routines and habits which provide that quick fix
  • Moods – we rant and rave, pout and complain

We all have our default setting—our personal set of unhealthy (and healthy) habits to deal with the barrage of daily strain and demands. Our unhealthy habits attempt to alleviate what ails us, but most are short-sighted, causing more pain and loss in the long run.

Stress is not our enemy. Stress is good, healthy and necessary. The culprit is cortisol and our inability to recognize when there’s too much. It is the masked bandit that robs us of more than we can imagine.

We cannot circumvent many of the stressors in our lives. (A magic wand about right now would be really nice.) But we can minimize the damage of 24/7 cortisol. Two steps are required.

#1. What are the objective realities of too much cortisol in your body?

  • Are you gaining unwanted weight or can’t take off what you’d like to lose?
  • Do you have trouble falling or staying asleep?
  • Are you a grouch?
  • Is your doctor concerned about your blood pressure, cholesterol or blood sugar?
  • Are you frequently ill or fighting an autoimmune disease?
  • Is joy a missing ingredient in the equation of life?

#2. Name it. Claim it. And face the enemy. Cortisol.

Diminishing the cortisol overload in our body will diminish these ugly, objective realities. Is it the only answer? No, but it packs a powerful punch.

This post demands the making of a list. Lists are terrible. We read them, nod our head and don’t do a darn thing. In an attempt to make this list gift-driven and not guilt-inducing I am categorizing these cortisol busting ideas into four different groups. I will share one group today. The options are not hard. Most are quite attractive. The other ideas will be posted in a few days. I’ve titled these lists: Tweak, Try, Train, Trek. Today we’ll stick with Tweak. These are surprising add-ons that have been scientifically proven to lower cortisol levels in our bodies. They are as easy as can be.


  • Breathe. Americans are famous for shallow, anemic breathing. Just a few, slow, deep breaths trigger the vagus nerve—every time. This signals the nervous system to lower the heart rate, which in turn helps the body recover from an overdose of cortisol. Tape up some breathe! sticky notes or set a timer on your cell phone. Bedtime and red lights are great places to practice. Experts tell us there’s an art to breathing well. Begin by exhaling out through your mouth. Then take a slow breath in through your nose. Don’t go too slow or too fast. Breathe at a normal rate, just make it sure it’s deep. Try to use your abdominal muscles and if you’re sitting upright, don’t allow your shoulders to rise. Make sure they’re relaxed. Five to ten will serve you well.
  • Hydrate. Mild dehydration adds to our fatigue and crankiness. Drink some water. Then a little bit more. Most Americans suffer from mild levels of dehydration every day. Don’t like to drink? Use a straw. A quick sip from a straw gets more in you then a sip from a cup.
  • Hold and hug. Wrap your arms around people you love. Every day. Human touch reduces cortisol levels. It’s life-giving to premature babies and just about everyone else. Kissing works, too.
  • Linger outside. Meander to your car. Most Americans spend only 14 minutes outside every day, the short bursts we spend walking from a building to our car and back again. This cortisol reducer simply encourages us to pause and pay attention. Feel the breeze, the rain, the sunshine. Listen for birds. Notice the clouds, a splash of color, the dance of leaves or branches in the wind. Attend. Then take a moment to marvel. And if you see a rose . . . well, you know what to do.
  • Smile. Simply smile. (Laugh, too, every chance you get.) A genuine smile reduces your heart rate even in stressful, multi-tasking situations. Go figure. So, shine those pearly whites at every person you meet. If they’re under five, add a wink free of charge. For an interesting read about smiling and cortisol, take a look at this Smithsonian article.
    • Thank the Lord. Every night. Three things. Be specific. Ann Voskamp encourages us to make a list of 1,000 things. A year of gratitude goes a long way. Begin tonight. Better yet, begin right now.

Have you ever tried changing your default setting?

Give it a try. Don’t give up.

Breathe. Drink. Hug. Attend. Smile. Say thank you.

Big steps in the right direction.

Note: This post is part of our original series on rest. We are re-posting some of our favorite articles because we believe they’re just as important today as ever. We hope you’re challenged to think of rest in a fresh new way. Would you like to read the post that preceded this one? Click here

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3 thoughts on “Where do you Default?”

    • Hi Pop . . . my favorite 85 year old father-in-law . . .and pastor! 🙂

      Chronic Cortisol is a killer.
      If it was not for God’s rhythms of rest I would have been dead a decade ago!!
      His ways bring healing and health.
      God had a Jacob-sized wrestling match with me … but He won!
      A life of rhythm and restoration blesses us with never-ending rewards.

      Love you!
      Brenda . . . your favorite Indiana daughter-in-law 🙂

  1. Thank you! I’m breathing! No one really to hug. Will the cat work? Well, cats are…..well, cats. I will try going outside. With breathing issues, and the allergies out there….it can be hard, but it’s worth a little time outside. I have to be careful of the sun due to the steroids, but I can get around that, too. It’s exercise I need and a different kind of noises….much to see. Even little things like picking up sticks. Remember “5 6 pick up sticks”? Laugh…..Jeanne Robertson has some great video comedy skits. She can bring a smile or a deep gut laugh. We’ll beat this. It’s God’s promise and I thank Him for you.


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